THE CHOICE IS ALWAYS YOURS

There were witches, cats, a crow, a puppy dog, spiderman, and even a mini Beetlejuice! It’s Halloween.

My journey to work this morning included all these little kids dressed up for Halloween going to school. 

My brain was instantly flooded with memories of the  many costumes I wore as a kid. I remembered the excitement I felt every year preparing for that one day at school and Halloween night, going house to house around my small town, saying “Trick or Treat” at every open door, collecting candy. 

For me it was joyful, playful, creative, fun and cold, as most Halloweens in my young life were accompanied by snow in Labrador. But, I had a blast no matter the weather. I was playing make believe and feeling joy doing it!

Now, unlike for me, Halloween might not have been fun for you growing up. Perhaps you weren’t allowed to participate in the experience because of religious beliefs, or maybe dressing up wasn’t exciting. So, if on Halloween you saw little kids dressed up, it might trigger you to remember sad or scary times, or feeling excluded, and those feelings would then will colour the rest of your day with stress and pain.

I’m reminded of one of my all-time favorite books by Miguel Ruiz Jr called “The Five Levels of Attachment” where our stories that make us - our memories; the ones that make us who we currently behave as, are what we identify with either loosely or as “just the way it is”. These stories are how we see life - our reality. 

All day long we are triggered by things we see around us, like the little costumed kids for me this morning, that bring back rushes of those memories that define us. And those memories make it so we can either have a good time or a challenging time as a result.

What struck me so intensely this morning was how quickly my mood shifted when I saw the kids and remembered my own fun times at Halloween when I was a kid. I smiled from ear to ear and in an instant, I was smack back in my youth reliving some of those fun times.

How often do you think this process is happening for us? 

It’s constantly happening, my friend!

Your perception is dictated by your memories that you think are “just the way it is” - your belief about what is true; your sense of what’s real - your reality. 

But, in capital T TRUTH, your reality is only yours. No one else in the entirety of existence sees the world through the same lens of memories as you do. This means reality is fluid. There is no one perceived reality.

That is extraordinary to internalize. It means you are absolutely, definitively, incredibly YOUnique. 

But it also means you GET TO decide which stories to cling to as your identity today and going forward and which ones you no longer need to direct the traffic of your life experience. 

YOU GET TO CREATE YOUR REALITY BY CHOICE.

This revelation for me this morning, though not completely new to me, was jarring in its intensity when I was triggered to feel so much joy while remembering my own Halloween fun as costumed kids rushed to school. 

🎃The way I felt this morning was inspired by happy memories that were triggered by an outside visual. 

🎃That means when I’m having challenging days, something outside of me is triggering stories that are keeping me stuck in challenging feelsing. 

🎃That then means if I become more aware of the stories I’m remembering when I’m feeling triggered, I can start choosing whether or not to continue being so attached to them or to gratefully let them go…

And you can too.

Please take this as an invitation to explore the attachments you have; that are your current sense of reality, and start deciding if you’ll keep ones you absolutely love and release those that keep you living small. It’s ok to choose to be identified in a certain way. But I propose that consciously choosing which ones to hold tight and which to let go of can make it easier to create the life you KNOW is possible for you!

Listen, perimenopause and post-menopause, when your brain is naturally rewiring, makes these types of revelations easier to embrace and rewrite. This is part of the GENIUS OF MENOPAUSE.

Do this work and I promise you will live a grander, happier experience.

The choice is always yours.

Hugs,

Dr. Krista xx

DrAc, IFMCP

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